Introduction
Communication is the way by which all other important parts of marriage are performed. If one loves someone and does not use words to express it then the person is doing wrong with his or her partner. If one trusts someone, he or she should communicate. Love, honesty and trust and all other important factors of strong marriage may not be meaningful in themselves. The expression of these things produces the marriage worth envying. Expression of love, expression of trust is where the magic is.
Communication is not just limited to speaking. There is verbal and non-verbal communication along with physical acts that are placed under the umbrella of communication. In a marriage, both of the partners want to hear that he or she is looking nice. Being able to express how another person is looking is one of the ways to make one’s spouse feel being loved. If one loves someone but never expresses his or her love then other person will never understand how much he or she be loved by other person. Nonverbal communication explains the gestures and postures of a human conveys more accurate information than verbal communication. No leg or arm crossing will feel one’s spouse that he or she is open to listen to what other person has to say. Is communication essential in building strong marriage relationship?
Discussion
According to Tannen, a study on why it is so hard for men and women to talk to each other. In her study, she explained that most of the complaints from a woman in a relationship are related to the phrase “He doesn’t talk to me”. This phrase arises when a husband does not effectively communicate whatever is happening to him or if there’s something that is troubling him but not wanted to let his wife know about the problem. This is where a problem comes up. It has been said that every problem has a solution, one has to look for it. This will be done with the help of communication. The study explored that most of the marriages end up in divorce because of lack of understanding and communication gap. From a men point of view, women always make unnecessary demands that’s why they avoid having conversations with them. However from the female point of view, Men doesn’t want to talk, doesn’t listens to them. Because of not having conversations, this will raise misconceptions and misunderstandings in the minds of both husband and wife. Both of them may be right in their own way but they’re unable to find a common ground on which they can make a good conversation. With the help of conversations all the problems that a relationship will be mitigated.
According to Duncan et al, the study of saving relationships, a healthy marriage is the one in which both the partners actively participates in bringing a change. The study focused on rules by explaining the fact that with the help of switching rules, both partners can benefit. For instance, one partner initiates sex while other does dishes. Most of the times these rules are set and not openly communicated because it is understood that these are the rules that both the partners have to follow. However, the study explored that changing in these type of rules can increase the healthiness of a relationship. Rules actually simplify the life by limiting options to an acceptable few. Most important features of a relationship are communication. This is considered as more of a system. What one person does is dependent upon what other person does. In a marriage, one person is constantly being influenced by other person. It doesn’t matter how strong one’s personality is, it is always be influenced by other person on an ongoing basis. If one loves someone but never expresses his or her love then other person will never understand how much he or she be loved by other person. Letting other person know about he or she is looking increases the effectiveness of a relationship.
According to Lavner et al, the quality of communication between husband and wife is widely assumed to affect their judgment of relationship satisfaction. However, it has been said that communication is just a consequence of spouse’s previous level of satisfaction. The study showed results that couples that communicate effectively are encouraged in more positive and less negative views about each other. However, the findings of this research gave birth to other questions about other factors that might indicate communication and satisfaction.
According to Braverman, in his article on a key to successful marriage, explained the importance of communication in a marriage. If one doesn’t have a healthy way to express his or her thoughts to the other person then everything in the relationship will ultimately end. In order to have a successful marriage, one has to make himself expert in communication. With the help of communication, all those small misconceptions can easily be removed that most probably becomes larger at the end of a relationship. In a marriage, one person has to become an amateur psychologist to figure out what really other person is wanting. It is essential to focus not on just words but one the fact that how they are implied. The article explained that if one wants something from his or her partner, he or she should ask for it rather than hope that other partner will understand on its own. This is not possible. One has to communicate. One of the most important thing in a healthy marriage relationship is the power of listening. Listening helps to resolve many issues.
According to Bagwell, “We need to talk” is one of those phrases that are most dreaded sentences in marriages. It has been said that those couples who send text messages to each other increases feelings of connectedness. Those couples who are married for more than 50 years cannot always predict what other person is thinking. In most of the marriages, one person thinks that other person just knows but in the end it turns up in a misunderstanding. Minimizing the confusion and through assurances, these are the pillars that build a healthy marriage. Couples who effectively communicate with one another are reported with great satisfaction from their marriage and live longer and healthier. Communication is the process of continues learning that brings couples closer to each other. It has been explained in the article that the time couple learns to communicate, they develop a unique language that only they will understand. Couples with poor communication results in dissatisfaction with the marriage and mostly ends up with divorce.
Conclusions
The aim of this research was to see if communication is essential in making up a good healthy marriage relationship. From the studies provided in the discussion, communication does play an important role in maintaining and building up a strong and healthy relationship. As it allows other partner to know exactly what other partner is demanding. With the help of effective communication, all those small problems are mitigated which can lead up to become giants and ends the relationship. Misconceptions and misunderstandings will never arise in effective communication. It has been found evident that couples that send text messages to one another are more likely to live longer than other couples. Also, it increases the feelings of connectedness.
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Braverman, E. “Communication – The Key To A Good Marriage.” Aish.com. N. p., 2018. Web. 17 Apr. 2018.
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Lavner, Justin A., Benjamin R. Karney, and Thomas N. Bradbury. “Does Couples’ Communication Predict Marital Satisfaction, or Does Marital Satisfaction Predict Communication?.” Journal of Marriage and Family 78.3 (2016): 680-694.
Tannen, Deborah. “Sex, Lies and Conversation: Why is it so Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?.” Conflict, Order, and Action: Readings in Sociology (2001): 244-248
