Introduction
The book People Styles at Work and Beyond was written by Robert Bolton and Dorothy Grover Bolton in 2009, in which they explained the difference between analyzing people’s styles at work and outside work. The main discussion in the book, which I could understand the most, is the best way to identify, plan, implement, and evaluate different styles of people. The main aim of the paper is to provide a personal reflection on the book and people’s styles at work and beyond, including personal learning, understanding, and analysis of the authors’ point of view as well as the best ways through which it can help a reader.
Discussion
The overall book is a discussion about understanding personal styles as well as, in general, other people’s ways of interpreting styles. The model used in the book is the people styles model, which shows different styles in which people interact. The DISK personality assessment tool is used, which is comprised of the driver (Dominant), Expressive (influencing), Amiable (Steady), and Analytical (Conscientious) components. In the initial part of the book, the reader is able to understand his own natural style and the ways in which he would be able to find the difference between his and others’ behavior. Also, there are specific chapters that discuss in detail the styles in which people react to excessive stress, understand their personal style, and evaluate and implement changes in a style (Frayha & Habicht, 2017). There is a good analysis of people’s styles at work and some proven methods with details about body language and behavior. The key to improved behaviors is style flex, and it is an important and necessary solution to people’s differences. At the end of the book, the three keys to a good relationship and style-based parenting are included, along with the art of loving someone, which is a difficult task with respect to loving your own self.
There is no doubt that all of us have people problems. We always have problems with others and face difficulties in creating the best relationships. The major differences among people arise when they think, decide, consume time, handle emotions, and deal with conflict in completely different ways. These differences are the basic cause of people’s problems, in which the most common problem is that people are less likely to understand others’ points of view and tend to rub each other in a completely wrong and provoking way. These problems disturb everyone interacting with us, and the level of miscommunication increases. Mostly, people’s differences are resolved by good conflict management and understanding, but sometimes a lack of communication creates stress in the overall personality.
An anthropologist has explained that it is impossible for us to understand another human being completely. The other human being could be from a different background and would have a different way of interpreting things (Bolton & Bolton, 2009). He would have his own way of analyzing the world. According to me, it means that we can interpret another person in very limited ways.
There are, in total, four different styles of people. These differences in style could not be considered barriers to communication or the building of a relationship, but they can be used mostly to build strength in the relationship. These four styles are driver, analytical, amiable, and expressive. A person cannot completely implement one style all the time. His style could vary from time to time and from situation to situation, which concludes that he could be assertive in one sense and have responsiveness abilities in another sense.
My personal perception about my work and way of behaving in situations and with people is that I am expressive. I have the ability to express my feelings and emotions, which makes me rich in expressiveness. I am responsive to any situation and very rarely keep myself away from anything. Also, I have the ability to show persistence and have great levels of confidence, which includes me in the category of being more assertive. The place where I stand right now is on the bottom right of the grid.
The best examples of my life with respect to being expressive are numerous. Some of the best examples that I can include are my over-involvement in every activity in the classroom as well as in extracurricular activities. Since I am very good at speeches and presenting different and unique ideas in the classroom as well as in public speaking situations, I am able to secure a good reputation as a good learner and a perfect representative in the adventure club and cultural society. I have published my reflections about a number of school and city events on social media as well, and I am very good at maintaining a discussion, which makes me a good response provider in diverse situations. I have very good skills in communication development, relationship building and maintenance, conflict management, as well as positive defense of my point of view. Due to these skills, I have gained good popularity among my fellows and other members of the social groups.
I completely agree with the discussion, as it was completely helpful. The book comprised a number of different ways through which I am able to understand my own style of reacting to situations as well as others’ different ways of understanding and thinking about situations. Since I am good at presenting my point of view, I maintain intense eye contact, which is a positive point for me in influencing others. Due to my good fluency in English, I have also built rapid speaking habits. There are several ways in which people’s differences are triggered because of these differences, and the book is highly helpful in reducing those differences if understood and practiced precisely according to the rules.
This book was highly beneficial with respect to personal learning and has made me able to perceive the behaviors of others in different situations. Previously, I was unable to understand better ways to mold or change my own behavior, which had a negative impact on my personality. Due to personality differences, I was unable to keep up with conversations and debates on opposing ideas, as I had a lack of tolerance and higher aggressiveness. This book is a good lesson for me to find the best ways to change my own behavior to best fit the situation and a group of people.
Conclusion
In a nutshell, it can be explained that the book was highly beneficial to people who are new to a group, and they could easily develop a good relationship with the other employees by understanding their relationships and showing positive behavior in different situations. People from any background can benefit from this book. I am English-speaking and have understood the book properly, which helped me implement the best style for my personality in different situations as well as among different groups of people. Style differences can cause difficulty in maintaining good relationships, but flexibility in style could help find the best ways to start and maintain a positive relationship.
References
Bolton, R., & Bolton, D. G. (2009). People Styles at Work–and Beyond Making Bad Relationships Good and Good Relationships Better. AMACOM Div American Mgmt Assn.
Frayha, N., & Habicht, R. J. (2017). Knowing Yourself and Your Style. In Hospital Medicine (pp. 9-23). Springer, Cham.
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