Introduction
The book, People Styles at Work and beyond is written by Robert Bolton and Dorothy Grover Bolton in 2009 in which he explained different of analyzing people styles at work as well as outside the work. The main discussion in the book which I could understand the most is the best way to identify, plan, implement and evaluate different styles of people. The main aim of the paper is to provide a personal refection on the book, people styles at work and beyond including personal learning, understanding and analyzing the point of view of the author as well as the best ways through which it can help a reader.
Discussion
The overall book is the discussion about the understanding of personal as well as in general other people’s way of interpreting the styles. The model used in the book is the people styles model for showing different styles in which people interact. The DISK personality assessment tool is used which is comprised of the driver (Dominant), Expressive (influencing), Amiable (Steady), and Analytical (Conscientious) components. In the initial part of the book, the reader is able to understand his own natural style and the ways in which he would be able to find the difference among his and other’s behavior. Also there are specific chapters where it is discussed in detail about the styles in which the people react to excessive stress, understand their personal style, evaluate and implement the changing of a style (Frayha & Habicht, 2017). There is a good analysis of people styles at work and some proven methods with details about body language and behavior. The key to the improved behaviors is the style flex and it is important and necessary solution to the people’s differences. At the end of the book the three keys to good relationship and style based parenting is included with the involvement of the art of loving someone which is a difficult task with respect to loving your own self.
It is not doubtful that all of us have the people problem. Always we have the problems with other and faces difficulties in creating best relationships. The major differences among the people arises when they think, decide, consume time, handle emotions and deal with conflict in a completely different way. These differences are the basic cause in creating the people problems in which the most known are less likely to understand others point of views, tend to rub each other in a completely wrong and invoking way. These problems disturbs everyone interacting to us and miscommunication level increases. Mostly the people differences are resolved by good conflict management and understand but sometimes due to lack of communication, it creates stressfulness in the overall personality.
An anthropologist have explained that it is impossible that we would be able to understand another human being completely. The other human being could be from a different background and would have a different way of interpreting the things (Bolton & Bolton, 2009). He would have his own way of analyzing the world. According to me, it means that we can interpret another person in very limited ways.
There are in total four different styles of the people. These styles differences could not be considered as barrios of communication or building of a relationship but can be used mostly for the purpose of building strength in the relationship. These four styles are driver, analytical, amiable, and expressive. A person could not be completely implementing one style all the time. His style could vary from time to time and from situation to situation which concludes that he could be assertive in one sense and could have the abilities of responsiveness in the other sense.
My personal perception about my work and way of behaving to the situations and people is expressive. I have abilities to express my feelings and emotions which makes me rich in expressiveness. I am responsive to any situations and very rarely keeps myself away from anything. Also I have abilities to show insistence and have great levels of confidence which includes me the category of having more assertiveness. The place where I stands right now is on the bottom right of the grid.
The best examples of my life with respect of being expressive are outnumbered. Some of the best examples that I can include are my over involvement in every activity in the classroom as well as in extracurricular activities. Since I am very good in speeches and presenting different and unique ideas in the classroom as well as in the public speaking situations, I am able to secure a good reputation as a good learner and a perfect representative in the adventure club and cultural society. I have published my reflections about the number of school and city events on the social media as well as I am very good to maintain a discussion whi9ch makes me a good response provider at diverse situations. I have very good communication development, relationship building and maintaining, conflict management as well as positive defense to my point of view skills. Due to these skills I have gain a good popularity among my fellows and other members of the social groups.
I completely agree with the discussion as it was completely helpful. The book comprised of a number of different ways through which I am able to understand my own style of reacting to the situations as well as others different ways of understanding and thinking about the situations. Since I have a good and sometimes while proposing my point of view I have to maintain the intense eye contact which is a positive point for me to influence others. Due to the good fluency in English I also have built the rapid speaking habits. There are several ways through which the people differences are triggered because of the differences and the book is highly helpful in reducing those differences if understood and practiced precisely according to the rules.
This book was highly beneficial with respect to the personal learning and have made me able to perceive the behaviors of others in different situations. Previously I was unable to understand the better ways to mold or change my own behavior which was a negative impact on my personality. Due to the personality difference, I was unable to keep up the conversations and debates on opposing ideas as I had lack of tolerance and higher aggressiveness. This book is a good lesson for me to find the best ways in changing my own behavior to make a best fit in the situation and a group of people.
Conclusion
In a nutshell, it can be explained that the book was highly beneficial for the people who are new in a group and they could easily be able to develop a good relationship with the other employees by understanding their relationships and to show their positive behavior in different situations. The people from any background can get benefit from this book. I am English speaking and have understood the book properly which helped me in implementing the best style on my personality in different situations as well as among different group of people. The style differences can cause difficulty in maintaining god relationship but with a flexibility in the style could help in finding the best ways to start and maintain a positive relationship.
References
Bolton, R., & Bolton, D. G. (2009). People Styles at Work–and Beyond: Making Bad Relationships Good and Good Relationships Better. AMACOM Div American Mgmt Assn.
Frayha, N., & Habicht, R. J. (2017). Knowing Yourself and Your Style. In Hospital Medicine (pp. 9-23). Springer, Cham.
