The decisions you make are a choice of values that reflect your life in every way.
Alice Waters
My father has always told me that the real life is very different from the one we watch the movies. He said that if I am waiting for a defining moment, with background music, then I am merely wasting my time. I will never be able to see that moment because it has probably already happened; without the background music. It is not the choices that we make in a Hollywood like a scene that defines us, but the ones we make in our daily life.
When I was younger, my dad wanted me to get enrolled in medical school and become a doctor. My father is a self-made man he struggled a lot to get me and the rest of my family, where we are today. And in the course, he sacrificed his youth, to earn money for the family. He always had this dream, of giving me the opportunities that were not available for him.
However, I never wanted to go to medical school. I wanted to be an archaeologist. I grew up watching movies like Jurassic Park and Indiana Jones; in which archaeologists discover a lost city or the answer to the question of dinosaur’s extinction, which fascinated me. I believed that I could not only earn a living being an archaeologist but also become famous.
So, I decided to talk to my father to not send me to the medical school. My father was naturally exasperated. He did not listen to any of my arguments. He instead told me that I was defying him since it was always clear what he wanted me to do. We had a heated debate on the topic, ending with dad throwing me out of the house.
It has been some time now, since that event. Though I still miss home, I can vouch that I feel that I took the right decision. I understand dad’s point of view. However, I think that there are certain things where I should be allowed to make my own choices. I plan to go back home once when I have my degree. Hopefully, by then dad might look through and understand my choice.
